
Intimacy Coach and Virgin Island TV Expert Helping People Reconnect with Desire
Andre Lazarus is a Somatic Intimacy Guide and media-recognised voice on relationships, sexuality, and embodied connection. His career has followed an unconventional path: from serving in the U.S. Marines to guiding people through the complexities of intimacy and desire. That breadth of experience gives him a distinctive perspective on courage, vulnerability, and human connection.
He is best known for his role on the UK television series Virgin Island, where he appeared as a professional surrogate partner helping participants confront intimacy challenges alongside licensed therapists. The program drew national attention, and Andre’s presence on screen highlighted how intimacy work is not about performance but about safety, consent, and the courage to connect.
Through his practice, Coming Closer, Andre supports individuals and couples across a wide range of needs: men facing midlife performance concerns, survivors of trauma seeking safety, long-term partners wanting to revive passion, and those exploring alternatives such as ethical non-monogamy. Equally, he works with couples committed to monogamy who want to strengthen trust and rediscover each other. His approach, rooted in the Somatica® Method of sex and intimacy coaching, emphasises learning through the body and replacing shame with curiosity.
While Andre has also taught workshops introducing kink and alternative practices, he situates them within a broader conversation: how people of all backgrounds can embrace intimacy as part of their wellbeing. His message consistently comes back to honesty, communication, and self-awareness as the foundations for connection.
Today, Andre balances private coaching, workshops, and a men’s online course on sexual communication with growing media visibility, including the upcoming second season of Virgin Island.
As a podcast guest, Andre brings candid stories, practical tools, and accessible frameworks that invite audiences to rethink intimacy as an evolving, lifelong practice.
Past trauma can profoundly impact how someone experiences intimacy, creating patterns of fear, shame, or disconnection. Andre speaks to this with sensitivity, explaining how embodied intimacy work…
Midlife brings changes that many men don’t expect-erectile difficulties, rapid ejaculation, or fading desire. These challenges are more common than most realize, yet silence and stigma keep men…
Andre introduces kink and BDSM as spaces for curiosity, play, and connection. Far from being about extremes, these practices can be as simple as exploring sensation or as structured as power…
POPULARAndre explores how couples can have honest conversations about boundaries, desire, and unmet needs-whether they choose monogamy, non-monogamy, or something in between. He also addresses the stigma…
5+ podcast & stage appearances. Remote or in studio, broadcast-grade audio.