Why Men in Midlife Need Honest Conversations About Sex

Midlife brings changes that many men don’t expect-erectile difficulties, rapid ejaculation, or fading desire. These challenges are more common than most realize, yet silence and stigma keep men isolated. Andre Lazarus cuts through the shame by showing how intimacy struggles are not failures but signals for deeper connection. With years of somatic intimacy coaching and a men’s course dedicated to sexual communication, he equips men with practical strategies that blend body-based tools, open dialogue, and self-awareness. Instead of chasing performance, Andre helps men reclaim confidence and closeness-proving that intimacy can deepen and expand in midlife rather than diminish.

About Andre Lazarus

Andre Lazarus, podcast guest

Intimacy Coach and Virgin Island TV Expert Helping People Reconnect with Desire

10 years Certified intimacy, sex & relationship guidanceU.S. Marine Officer Wartime deployment & military service4.5M viewers Channel 4’s Virgin Island reachProfessional surrogate partner On-screen intimacy role

Andre Lazarus is a Somatic Intimacy Guide and media-recognised voice on relationships, sexuality, and embodied connection. His career has followed an unconventional path: from serving in the U.S. Marines to guiding people through the complexities of intimacy and desire. That breadth of experience gives him a distinctive perspective on courage, vulnerability, and human connection.

He is best known for his role on the UK television series Virgin Island, where he appeared as a professional surrogate partner helping participants confront intimacy challenges alongside licensed therapists. The program drew national attention, and Andre’s presence on screen highlighted how intimacy work is not about performance but about safety, consent, and the courage to connect.

Through his practice, Coming Closer, Andre supports individuals and couples across a wide range of needs: men facing midlife performance concerns, survivors of trauma seeking safety, long-term partners wanting to revive passion, and those exploring alternatives such as ethical non-monogamy. Equally, he works with couples committed to monogamy who want to strengthen trust and rediscover each other. His approach, rooted in the Somatica® Method of sex and intimacy coaching, emphasises learning through the body and replacing shame with curiosity.

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