Healing Intimacy After Trauma

Past trauma can profoundly impact how someone experiences intimacy, creating patterns of fear, shame, or disconnection. Andre speaks to this with sensitivity, explaining how embodied intimacy work helps clients reconnect to their bodies in safe, guided ways. By combining therapeutic touch, presence, and communication, he creates space for emotional release and rebuilding trust-first with oneself, then with partners. He highlights that healing is not about “fixing” or rushing, but about allowing people to move at their own pace, reclaiming intimacy as something safe, empowering, and restorative.

About Andre Lazarus

Andre Lazarus, podcast guest

Intimacy Coach and Virgin Island TV Expert Helping People Reconnect with Desire

10 years Certified intimacy, sex & relationship guidanceU.S. Marine Officer Wartime deployment & military service4.5M viewers Channel 4’s Virgin Island reachProfessional surrogate partner On-screen intimacy role

Andre Lazarus is a Somatic Intimacy Guide and media-recognised voice on relationships, sexuality, and embodied connection. His career has followed an unconventional path: from serving in the U.S. Marines to guiding people through the complexities of intimacy and desire. That breadth of experience gives him a distinctive perspective on courage, vulnerability, and human connection.

He is best known for his role on the UK television series Virgin Island, where he appeared as a professional surrogate partner helping participants confront intimacy challenges alongside licensed therapists. The program drew national attention, and Andre’s presence on screen highlighted how intimacy work is not about performance but about safety, consent, and the courage to connect.

Through his practice, Coming Closer, Andre supports individuals and couples across a wide range of needs: men facing midlife performance concerns, survivors of trauma seeking safety, long-term partners wanting to revive passion, and those exploring alternatives such as ethical non-monogamy. Equally, he works with couples committed to monogamy who want to strengthen trust and rediscover each other. His approach, rooted in the Somatica® Method of sex and intimacy coaching, emphasises learning through the body and replacing shame with curiosity.

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