What Alfina Lofaro talks about

Relationship Patterns From the Inside: using lived experience to make the work relatable

Many people avoid relationship advice because it can feel polished, clinical or impossible to relate to, especially when the expert appears to have had love figured out from the beginning. Alfina…

Relationship Skills Before Crisis: everyday language for patterns people can recognise

Many everyday people only look for relationship help once resentment, conflict or emotional distance has already stacked up, but that is often the hardest moment to learn something new. Alfina…

Repairing Business Relationships: what to do after trust breaks with a partner, client or team member

Alfina Lofaro has spent more than 20 years as a kinesiologist and coach helping people see the patterns they bring into every relationship, and she applies the same lens to business. Most founders…

Relationships Under Lockdown: what the removal of everyday distractions revealed about trust, boundaries and repair

When the distractions disappeared in 2020, Alfina Lofaro watched couples, families and friendships find out what they had actually built. A kinesiologist, coach and award-winning author of Love…

The Relationship With Yourself: how self-awareness sets the pattern for every other relationship a person has.

Alfina Lofaro spent years proving she was enough by doing more, building a career and a shelf of qualifications while the relationship that needed her most, the one with herself, went unattended.…

How Conditional Love in Childhood Shapes Adult Relationships: Recognising the habit of earning approval at home and at work, and how to unlearn it

Alfina Lofaro grew up on a 300-acre farm in rural Queensland, the daughter of Italian migrants, learning early that love could feel conditional and belonging had to be earned. So she earned it: a…