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Catherine Hickem

Catherine Hickem

Author, Psychotherapist & Founder of Parenting Adult Children Today

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Parenting teenagers untangled. 🏆 The audio hug for parents of teens and tweens.

Parenting teenagers untangled. 🏆 The audio hug for parents of teens and tweens.

Lessons in parenting from adult kids who go no contact: 156

August 20, 2025

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Do you ever worry about losing touch with your kids as they grow up?

In this episode of Teenagers Untangled I'm joined by Catherine Hickem, a licensed clinical social worker, psychotherapist, and founder of Parenting Adult Children Today to explore the growing issue of family estrangement.

Catherine is leading a conversation around one of the most overlooked family dynamics: the relationship between parents and their adult children. Despite how common this phase of life is, few resources exist to help parents navigate the transition from authority figure to trusted ally.

*Research shows that about one in four American adults—27%—report estrangement from a family member. Notably, 26% of adult children have experienced estrangement from a father, compared to only 6% from a mother—and many of these rifts eventually heal.

We discuss why adult children might cut ties with parents, and what we can do now—while our kids are tweens or teens—to build a strong, lasting relationship.

We cover:

The most common reasons adult children become estranged from their parentsThe key mistakes parents make (and how to avoid them)How to adapt your parenting style as your children grow into adulthoodThe impact of parental expectations, grief, and cultural pressures on family bondsPractical strategies for fostering trust, open communication, and unconditional loveReal-life stories of reconciliation and hopeCatherine Hickem brings decades of experience working with thousands of families, offering actionable advice and heartfelt encouragement.

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https://www.parentingadultchildrentoday.com/

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Research sources:

A longitudinal U.S. study (Reczek et al.), Cornell's Fault Lines project, and the YouGov poll conducted in 2022.

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You can reach Susie at www.amindful-life.co.uk

Catherine Hickem Podcast Episodes

ResponseABLE Parenting

143. It's Never Too Late to Be a Great Parent with Catherine Hickem

ResponseABLE Parenting

Apr 2026

Parenting IQ -  Healthy Family Habits, Parenting Challenges and Solutions

Interview with Catherine Hickem

Parenting IQ - Healthy Family Habits, Parenting Challenges and Solutions

Feb 2026

Hearts Entwined Podcast

Parent & Adult Child Relationships - Lyn Smith & Catherine Hickem

Hearts Entwined Podcast

Feb 2026

Coaching Your Family Relationships

Parenting Adult Children Today with Catherine Hickem

Coaching Your Family Relationships

Feb 2026

Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse

Lost Contact? Why Some Parents Have to Push Away Their Kids

Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse

Jan 2026

The Families of Character Show

Ep. #175: Breaking the Cycle of Parent–Child Estrangement with Catherine Hickem, LCSW

The Families of Character Show

Nov 2025

The Nacho Kids Podcast: Blended Family Lifesaver

Interview with Catherine Hickem

The Nacho Kids Podcast: Blended Family Lifesaver

Oct 2025

The Show UP Dad

Building Strong Parent-Teen Relationships with Catherine Hickem

The Show UP Dad

Sep 2025

Where Parents Talk: Evidence-based Expert Advice on Raising Kids Today

Healing Estrangement: Reconnecting with Your Adult Child

Where Parents Talk: Evidence-based Expert Advice on Raising Kids Today

Aug 2025

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Key topics

Why Parents Must Grieve the Child They Imagined to Truly Love the One They Have

Parents don’t just raise children—they raise dreams. When those dreams collide with reality, whether through career choices, identity shifts, or unexpected turns, unspoken grief often creeps in. Left unacknowledged, this grief can harden into distance, resentment, or even estrangement. Catherine explains why facing this loss is not only natural but essential: it clears the path for genuine acceptance, deeper love, and healthier adult relationships. Drawing from four decades as a psychotherapist and her own experience as a mother, she brings compassion and clarity to a family dynamic most people feel but rarely discuss—making her a rare and credible voice in helping parents move from disappointment to connection.

From Parent to Partner—The Shift Most Families Fail to Make

The hardest part of parenting isn’t the sleepless nights or teenage rebellion—it’s knowing when to step out of the authority role and step into partnership. Too many parents miss the moment when their child no longer needs direction, but respect. The result is tension, distance, or even estrangement. Catherine breaks down what this transition really requires: letting go of control, learning the art of listening, and showing up as a steady ally in adulthood. With four decades as a psychotherapist and her own lived experience as a mother, she offers a rare blend of candor and compassion that helps parents make the leap from managing their children’s lives to being invited into them.

Why Expectations Are the Silent Killers of Parent-Adult Child Connection

It’s rarely the big blowups that fracture families—it’s the quiet weight of unspoken expectations. Holiday gatherings, milestone decisions, and even casual conversations often mask assumptions that leave adult children feeling unseen or judged. Over time, those invisible pressures can be more damaging than outright conflict, eroding trust and driving distance. Catherine explains why expectations must be named and dismantled before real connection can thrive, and how parents can trade silent judgment for honest dialogue and healthy boundaries. With decades as a psychotherapist and a mother who has navigated these very dynamics, she offers a candid roadmap for parents ready to stop sabotaging the very relationships they long to protect.

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