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Catherine Hickem

Catherine Hickem

Author, Psychotherapist & Founder of Parenting Adult Children Today

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Catherine Hickem Podcast Episodes

Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse

Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse

Lost Contact? Why Some Parents Have to Push Away Their Kids

January 19, 2026

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Why do loving parents sometimes push away the very children they'd do anything for?

This week, Catherine Hickem joins Dr. Kerry to unpack one of the most painful dynamics in modern families—parental estrangement. We explore how unspoken expectations create invisible walls, why parents mistake control for connection, and how grief work (yes, grief work) is the secret to letting your adult children become who they actually are, not who you needed them to be.

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🔹 Stuck waiting for certainty before you leave?

Catherine and Dr. Kerry tackle the cognitive dissonance trap—why you'll never feel "ready" to go, how to make the hardest decision of your life without clarity, and why almost no one regrets leaving once they finally do.

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MORE ABOUT CATHERINE HICKEM

Website: https://www.parentingadultchildrentoday.com TikTok: @parentingadultchildrentdEmail: catherine@parentingadultchildrentoday.comCATHERINE HICKEM, LCSW, is a licensed clinical social worker, psychotherapist, executive and family coach, and founder of Parenting Adult Children Today. With over 40 years of experience and a master's degree in clinical social work from the University of Louisville, Catherine has dedicated her career to helping parents navigate the often-overlooked complexities of raising adult children. She is the author of Regret-Free Parenting and specializes in estrangement recovery, teaching parents how to release expectations, grieve unmet dreams, and rebuild relationships grounded in acceptance rather than control.

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ReclaimYou: Dr. Kerry's AI-powered coaching appThe Complete Recovery Collection: Narcissistic abuse resourcesFirst Steps to Leaving: Online self-paced digital courseToxic-Free Relationship Club: Live coaching & community supportFollow Dr. Kerry!

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Catherine Hickem Podcast Episodes

ResponseABLE Parenting

143. It's Never Too Late to Be a Great Parent with Catherine Hickem

ResponseABLE Parenting

Apr 2026

Parenting IQ -  Healthy Family Habits, Parenting Challenges and Solutions

Interview with Catherine Hickem

Parenting IQ - Healthy Family Habits, Parenting Challenges and Solutions

Feb 2026

Hearts Entwined Podcast

Parent & Adult Child Relationships - Lyn Smith & Catherine Hickem

Hearts Entwined Podcast

Feb 2026

Coaching Your Family Relationships

Parenting Adult Children Today with Catherine Hickem

Coaching Your Family Relationships

Feb 2026

The Families of Character Show

Ep. #175: Breaking the Cycle of Parent–Child Estrangement with Catherine Hickem, LCSW

The Families of Character Show

Nov 2025

The Nacho Kids Podcast: Blended Family Lifesaver

Interview with Catherine Hickem

The Nacho Kids Podcast: Blended Family Lifesaver

Oct 2025

The Show UP Dad

Building Strong Parent-Teen Relationships with Catherine Hickem

The Show UP Dad

Sep 2025

Parenting teenagers untangled. 🏆 The audio hug for parents of teens and tweens.

Lessons in parenting from adult kids who go no contact: 156

Parenting teenagers untangled. 🏆 The audio hug for parents of teens and tweens.

Aug 2025

Where Parents Talk: Evidence-based Expert Advice on Raising Kids Today

Healing Estrangement: Reconnecting with Your Adult Child

Where Parents Talk: Evidence-based Expert Advice on Raising Kids Today

Aug 2025

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Key topics

Why Parents Must Grieve the Child They Imagined to Truly Love the One They Have

Parents don’t just raise children—they raise dreams. When those dreams collide with reality, whether through career choices, identity shifts, or unexpected turns, unspoken grief often creeps in. Left unacknowledged, this grief can harden into distance, resentment, or even estrangement. Catherine explains why facing this loss is not only natural but essential: it clears the path for genuine acceptance, deeper love, and healthier adult relationships. Drawing from four decades as a psychotherapist and her own experience as a mother, she brings compassion and clarity to a family dynamic most people feel but rarely discuss—making her a rare and credible voice in helping parents move from disappointment to connection.

From Parent to Partner—The Shift Most Families Fail to Make

The hardest part of parenting isn’t the sleepless nights or teenage rebellion—it’s knowing when to step out of the authority role and step into partnership. Too many parents miss the moment when their child no longer needs direction, but respect. The result is tension, distance, or even estrangement. Catherine breaks down what this transition really requires: letting go of control, learning the art of listening, and showing up as a steady ally in adulthood. With four decades as a psychotherapist and her own lived experience as a mother, she offers a rare blend of candor and compassion that helps parents make the leap from managing their children’s lives to being invited into them.

Why Expectations Are the Silent Killers of Parent-Adult Child Connection

It’s rarely the big blowups that fracture families—it’s the quiet weight of unspoken expectations. Holiday gatherings, milestone decisions, and even casual conversations often mask assumptions that leave adult children feeling unseen or judged. Over time, those invisible pressures can be more damaging than outright conflict, eroding trust and driving distance. Catherine explains why expectations must be named and dismantled before real connection can thrive, and how parents can trade silent judgment for honest dialogue and healthy boundaries. With decades as a psychotherapist and a mother who has navigated these very dynamics, she offers a candid roadmap for parents ready to stop sabotaging the very relationships they long to protect.

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