Geoff Owen
Founder of Biologically Aligned Parenting, Reframing Oppositional Behaviour Through Parent-Child Environment
Sample Podcast Questions for Geoff Owen
- 1
When things feel tense at home and a child is pushing back or shutting down, what’s usually going on beneath the surface in that moment?
- 2
Can you take us back to a moment with your own children where something didn’t go the way you expected, and what that revealed to you about how children actually respond to their environment?
- 3
Many parents feel like they’re doing everything they can and still ending up in daily conflict—what tends to keep that cycle going?
- 4
What changes when a parent stops trying to correct behaviour and starts paying attention to what that behaviour might be responding to?
- 5
For someone used to solving problems quickly in their work, what happens when that same approach gets brought into family life?
- 6
Golf rewards focus, control, and constant adjustment—what have you noticed happens when that same mindset shows up in the way someone responds to their child at home?
- 7
There’s often a point where a parent feels like they’ve tried everything and nothing is working—what tends to shift when they begin to see their role differently?
- 8
When a child withdraws, spends all their time alone, or barely communicates, how can a parent understand what’s really happening there without chasing or forcing connection?
- 9
Looking back over the years raising your own children, were there moments where you realized something was working in a way that went against what most people would expect?
- 10
When the atmosphere at home begins to change, what are some of the first subtle signs that things are moving in a different direction?
Latest episodes
Key topics
Golfers know you cannot fix the shot until you read the conditions, and Geoff says parenting works the same way
Geoff has played golf for most of his life, still competes at 70, and recently shot 77 in a club competition, so his parenting lens does not borrow from golf loosely - it comes from someone who understands the game from the inside. He sees a direct parallel between good golf and good parenting: the mistake is usually not solved by forcing harder, but by reading the lie, the pressure, the weather, the course, and the conditions shaping what happens next. For golfing parents, especially those who know the pressure of performance or travel, this reframes a child’s behaviour in a way that feels immediately familiar. Geoff shows why behaviour, like a golf shot, is not something to simply correct in isolation; it is a response to the conditions around it, and when parents learn to read those conditions, they stop wasting energy fighting the wrong problem.
The disconnected child who retreats to their room is not rejecting the parent, but objecting to the environment
When children withdraw, shut down, become monosyllabic, or disappear into screens, parents often experience it as disrespect or rejection. Geoff reframes that behaviour as a form of instinctive self-protection, especially when the child does not have the language or maturity to explain what feels wrong. His work shows how small shifts in parental pressure, presence, and attention can change the emotional climate without forcing a confrontation. For parents of tweens, teens, and young adults at home, this creates a hopeful conversation about rebuilding connection without chasing, pleading, or controlling.
Children do not need to be raised into maturity as much as reared in the conditions that allow it
Geoff makes a sharp distinction between raising and rearing, because one suggests shaping a child from the outside while the other points to the conditions that allow a child to grow. His perspective is rooted in the belief that children are born social, capable, and responsive to the atmosphere around them. Rather than asking parents to mould behaviour through constant correction, he helps them see maturity as something that develops when children feel trusted, included, connected, and safe enough to settle. This is a powerful conversation for parents who sense that conventional parenting language no longer fits the kind of relationship they want with their child.
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Latest episodes
Key topics
Golfers know you cannot fix the shot until you read the conditions, and Geoff says parenting works the same way
Geoff has played golf for most of his life, still competes at 70, and recently shot 77 in a club competition, so his parenting lens does not borrow from golf loosely - it comes from someone who understands the game from the inside. He sees a direct parallel between good golf and good parenting: the mistake is usually not solved by forcing harder, but by reading the lie, the pressure, the weather, the course, and the conditions shaping what happens next. For golfing parents, especially those who know the pressure of performance or travel, this reframes a child’s behaviour in a way that feels immediately familiar. Geoff shows why behaviour, like a golf shot, is not something to simply correct in isolation; it is a response to the conditions around it, and when parents learn to read those conditions, they stop wasting energy fighting the wrong problem.
The disconnected child who retreats to their room is not rejecting the parent, but objecting to the environment
When children withdraw, shut down, become monosyllabic, or disappear into screens, parents often experience it as disrespect or rejection. Geoff reframes that behaviour as a form of instinctive self-protection, especially when the child does not have the language or maturity to explain what feels wrong. His work shows how small shifts in parental pressure, presence, and attention can change the emotional climate without forcing a confrontation. For parents of tweens, teens, and young adults at home, this creates a hopeful conversation about rebuilding connection without chasing, pleading, or controlling.
Children do not need to be raised into maturity as much as reared in the conditions that allow it
Geoff makes a sharp distinction between raising and rearing, because one suggests shaping a child from the outside while the other points to the conditions that allow a child to grow. His perspective is rooted in the belief that children are born social, capable, and responsive to the atmosphere around them. Rather than asking parents to mould behaviour through constant correction, he helps them see maturity as something that develops when children feel trusted, included, connected, and safe enough to settle. This is a powerful conversation for parents who sense that conventional parenting language no longer fits the kind of relationship they want with their child.
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