When Healing Becomes Another Form of Perfectionism: Body Wisdom, Emotions, and the Game of Lila with Devin Scott

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What happens when the very tools meant to heal you—breathwork, yoga, mindfulness—become ways to silence your inner wisdom?

In this deeply vulnerable conversation, I sit down withDevin Scott, founder of Find Your Meaning, a body-based coach, who shares his recent experience of ignoring his body's signals in a relationship—and what he has learned about "healing" from that experience.

We recorded this episode in early December, just days after Devin went through a painful breakup. Instead of presenting a polished, "healed" version of himself, he brought his raw, real experience into our conversation—and what emerged is one of the most honest explorations of body wisdom, emotional intelligence, and the shadow side of "wellness" that I've ever had.

This conversation will shift how you think about healing, emotions, and what it means to truly listen to yourself.

What You'll Learn in This Episode:

Why traditional healing systems often feel hollow—and how they can reinforce perfectionism and conformity instead of true transformationThe difference between resourcing and dissociating—how Devin used "healthy" practices like breathwork and yoga to silence his body's wisdom instead of listening to itWhy emotions aren't problems to solve—they're messages, evolutionary tools, and pathways to deeper wisdomHow body wisdom gets overridden—the cultural scripts that teach us to distrust our intuition and seek external validationThe philosophy of Lila—an ancient Indian concept that reframes life as "cosmic play" rather than a linear path to fix yourselfWhy you don't need to "win" at healing—and how the idea of becoming a "better version of yourself" can be self-punitiveWhen nervous system collapse is necessary—why sometimes you need to stop doing and just be with what isThe gaslighting embedded in systems—from workplaces to therapy, how we're taught that we are the problem, not the system

Key Themes:

This episode explores the paradox of using healing modalities to avoid feeling, the courage it takes to trust your body when logic demands otherwise, and the radical idea that suffering might not be something to transcend—but something to experience fully as part of being human.

Devin's honesty about his own recent heartbreak—and how he ignored his body's clear signals because he couldn't rationalize them—offers a powerful reminder that even those who teach this work are still learning it. We're all human. We all stumble. And vulnerability isn't weakness—it's where the real wisdom lives.

About Devin Scott:

Devin Scott is a body-based coach and facilitator who helps people reconnect with their inner wisdom and move through life with greater authenticity. He's the founder of Find Your Meaning, where he blends somatic coaching, mindfulness, and psychological insight to support clients who feel disillusioned by traditional systems of healing.

His work draws people who have carried the weight of trauma or grown tired of playing the game of societal expectations—and who are now searching for something deeper, more sustainable, and more whole. Devin facilitates Lila (an ancient Indian board game about consciousness), offers psychological bodywork, and creates spaces where emotions are honored as wisdom rather than problems to fix.

Connect With Devin Scott:

Website: findyourmeaningcoach.comLinkedIn

Resources:

Free Masterclass:  The Alchemy of the Perimenopause Portal

Ayurvedic Dosha Quick Reference Guide

Abhyanga Self Massage Guide

Weekend Nervous System Reset

Nourished For Resilience Workbook

Find me at www.mynourishednervoussystem.com

and @nourishednervoussytem on Instagram