Owning Your Sexual Self

Interview with Andre Lazarus

Andre Lazarus · January 20, 2026

Life Coach · Relationshipsin

Interview with Andre Lazarus

Podcast: Owning Your Sexual Self

January 20, 2026 · 46 min

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Key topicsBeyond MonogamyAndre explores how couples can have honest conversations about boundaries, desire, and unmet needs-whether they choose monogamy, non-monogamy, or something in between. He also addresses the stigma surrounding infidelity, highlighting how shame often prevents people from understanding the deeper issues that lead to disconnection in relationships. Let’s Talk About Rapid EjaculationRapid ejaculation is one of the most common sexual concerns among men, yet it’s often hidden behind embarrassment. Andre opens up the conversation, explaining why it happens and how simple communication and body-based strategies can help men slow down, stay present, and feel more confident with partners. Why Men in Midlife Need Honest Conversations About SexMidlife brings changes that many men don’t expect-erectile difficulties, rapid ejaculation, or fading desire. These challenges are more common than most realize, yet silence and stigma keep men isolated. Andre Lazarus cuts through the shame by showing how intimacy struggles are not failures but signals for deeper connection. With years of somatic intimacy coaching and a men’s course dedicated to sexual communication, he equips men with practical strategies that blend body-based tools, open dialogue, and self-awareness. Instead of chasing performance, Andre helps men reclaim confidence and closeness-proving that intimacy can deepen and expand in midlife rather than diminish. View all topics →

About Andre Lazarus

Intimacy Coach and Virgin Island TV Expert Helping People Reconnect with Desire

10 years Certified intimacy, sex & relationship guidanceU.S. Marine Officer Wartime deployment & military service4.5M viewers Channel 4’s Virgin Island reachProfessional surrogate partner On-screen intimacy role

Andre Lazarus is a Somatic Intimacy Guide and media-recognised voice on relationships, sexuality, and embodied connection. His career has followed an unconventional path: from serving in the U.S. Marines to guiding people through the complexities of intimacy and desire. That breadth of experience gives him a distinctive perspective on courage, vulnerability, and human connection.

He is best known for his role on the UK television series Virgin Island, where he appeared as a professional surrogate partner helping participants confront intimacy challenges alongside licensed therapists. The program drew national attention, and Andre’s presence on screen highlighted how intimacy work is not about performance but about safety, consent, and the courage to connect.

Through his practice, Coming Closer, Andre supports individuals and couples across a wide range of needs: men facing midlife performance concerns, survivors of trauma seeking safety, long-term partners wanting to revive passion, and those exploring alternatives such as ethical non-monogamy. Equally, he works with couples committed to monogamy who want to strengthen trust and rediscover each other. His approach, rooted in the Somatica® Method of sex and intimacy coaching, emphasises learning through the body and replacing shame with curiosity.

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About this episode

Hello! Welcome back to the Owning Your Sexual Self podcast! I'm so excited to finally welcomeAndre Lazarusto the show. Andre is a somatic intimacy guide and a widely recognized voice in conversations around relationships, sexuality, and embodied connection, and his work brings such a grounded, compassionate perspective to intimacy. You may also recognize him from the UK series Virgin Island, where he helped reframe intimacy as something rooted in consent, curiosity, and connection. I have been looking forward to this conversation for a long time, and I am genuinely thrilled to finally welcome Andre onto the show.

In this episode:

What somatic intimacy work is and how it differs from talk based approachesHow safety, consent, and curiosity create the foundation for meaningful intimacyWhat surrogate partner work is and how it supports therapeutic goalsWhat it can look like to rebuild safety within your own bodySimple embodied practices that help people feel more present and groundedHow curiosity can soften shame and open new pathways to connectionThe role of intentional communication and regular relationship check insWhy connection compassion and presence are essential parts of intimacyThank you so much for listening! Don't forget to share on your social media and tag me if you loved this episode!

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Website: Coming-Closer.com

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Guest: Andre Lazarus