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Getting Ready For Real Love - Lyn Smith & Roy Biancalana

Roy Biancalana · February 20, 2025

Relationships · Life Coach · Author

Interview with Roy Biancalana

Getting Ready For Real Love - Lyn Smith & Roy Biancalana

Podcast: Hearts Entwined Podcast

February 20, 2025 · 29 min

Lyn welcomes relationship coach Roy Biancalana to discuss the often ignored idea of "getting ready for real love." Roy shares insights from his own personal experiences, emphasising the importance of going on a journey of self-awareness and personal growth before seeking a…

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Key topicsThe Real Reason You’re Still Single (Hint: It’s Not What You Think)Many singles believe their relationship struggles stem from bad luck or not meeting the right person. Roy dismantles this myth, exposing the deeper, hidden reasons that keep people stuck in frustrating dating patterns. Through candid stories and practical insights, Roy highlights how unresolved past experiences, self-sabotage, and limiting beliefs quietly dictate romantic outcomes. This conversation empowers listeners to uncover the real barriers to love and break free from them. Breaking the Relationship Groundhog Day Syndrome – Why You Keep Dating the Same Person in Different BodiesRoy introduces the concept of 'Relationship Groundhog Day,' where individuals unknowingly repeat the same toxic patterns, even when dating new people. He reveals how subconscious habits drive partner selection and how emotional wounds create predictable – and preventable – relationship cycles. In this dynamic episode, Roy shares how to break the cycle by identifying blind spots, rewriting inner narratives, and stepping into healthier dating experiences. The Most Important Relationship in Your Life (And Why It Has Nothing to Do with Dating)In this transformative discussion, Roy shifts the focus from external dating strategies to the relationship that underpins all others – the one with yourself. He explains how cultivating self-love, self-trust, and emotional resilience lays the foundation for attracting healthier romantic connections. By fostering this internal relationship, singles not only improve their love lives but also experience greater fulfillment across all areas of life. View all topics →

About Roy Biancalana

Roy Biancalana, podcast guest

Nationally Recognized Relationship Coach Helping Singles Break Patterns and Attract Lasting Love

Nearly 25 years Personal growth & coaching3× #1 bestseller Relationship & personal growth author280+ episodes Attracting Lasting Love podcastFormer player PGA Tour

Roy Biancalana is a nationally recognized relationship coach, bestselling author, and host of The Attracting Lasting Love Podcast. With over 15 years of experience, Roy helps singles identify and overcome the internal barriers that keep them from finding fulfilling, lasting relationships. His journey into coaching began from personal hardship – navigating heartbreak, divorce, and unsuccessful rebounds – ultimately leading him to seek out coaching for himself. This transformative experience ignited his passion to guide others through their own relationship challenges.

As the author of Relationship Bootcamp: Hard-Core Training for Life, Love & the Pursuit of Intimacy, Roy emphasizes the importance of being in “relationship shape.” He believes that healthy, sustainable relationships are not found through luck but through inner work and personal growth. His approach blends modern coaching techniques with the wisdom of spiritual thought leaders, creating a unique method that resonates with individuals seeking more conscious, meaningful connections.

Roy’s coaching primarily attracts individuals between 30 and 65, frustrated by their relationship history and ready to break patterns of self-sabotage. While he works with both men and women, Roy’s podcast appearances frequently touch on themes of personal growth, conscious living, and overcoming limiting beliefs.

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About this episode

Lyn welcomes relationship coachRoy Biancalanato discuss the often-ignored idea of "getting ready for real love." Roy shares insights from his own personal experiences, emphasising the importance of going on a journey of self-awareness and personal growth before seeking a partner. He highlights the common mistakes people make when searching for love, such as focusing solely on finding a partner rather than preparing themselves for attracting a healthy relationship.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

Before seeking a partner, it's crucial to work on ourselves to heal/ remove any emotional baggage and self-sabotaging behaviours. By changing the focus to being in a healthy state, we allow for better connections to be attracted to us when meeting potential partners.

Many individuals repeat unhealthy relationship patterns because they fail to recognise their own contributions to their past experiences. Self-reflection and awareness are essential for breaking these cycles.

The idea that "like attracts like" emphasises that individuals will attract partners who are at a similar level of emotional and psychological health. To attract a healthier partner, one must first work on becoming a healthier partner by being our best self.

Utilising tools like the Relationship Fitness Self-Assessment Test can provide insights into one's current relationship readiness and highlight areas for personal growth.

BEST MOMENTS

"If we aren't ready for something real... we shoot ourselves in the foot."

"A lot of people... are frightened to be single... especially if they're unintentionally single."

"You will always attract a partner and a relationship that is as healthy as you are."

"If you want an extraordinary relationship... you have to do some really serious work on yourself."

ABOUT THE GUEST - Roy Biancalana - Relationship Coach Website - https://coachingwithroy.comABOUT THE HOST

Lyn Smith – (The Queen of HEARTS) – Love, Dating & Relationship Expert

Lyn’s personal story is a very inspirational and harrowing one of how she went from having unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships with men (on the back of several serious traumatic sexual assaults in her teens) to now being in a soul fulfilling relationship which makes her feel alive, is full of passion and gives her inner peace.

She has a proven track record as a Love Solutions - Relationship Expert / Trainer / Inspirational Speaker and Best-Selling Author based upon her own vast personal research, experiential learning and training with the world’s leading industry experts.

Understanding the polarisation of masculine & feminine energy resulted in her creating massive attraction and a passionate, intimate, fulfilling relationship – that inspired her to design & present her own course programmes to share these break-through relationship techniques with women across the globe.

HEARTS Entwined is a world-class service based on care and understanding, which is committed to providing step-by-step high-value love, dating and relationship solutions.

Lyn makes a difference by helping you make a difference; she has a vision of contributing back on a global scale – to create a lasting legacy of safety, dignity and opportunity for children and women who have survived rape, abuse and severe trauma as a result of war crimes and sex trafficking – through the setting up of worldwide – ‘you can heal your life’ centres.CONTACT METHODlyn@hearts-entwined.com

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