What men miss about abusive relationships when the abuse does not fit the stereotype

Kerry Farrell knows what it means to have life split into a before and an after. After two divorces of her own, she came to understand that even when a relationship ends by choice, the grief is still real. What falls away is not only the partnership, but the future you had pictured, the routines that held everyday life together, and the sense of who you are when everything familiar has shifted. That lived experience now sits at the heart of her work with men navigating divorce, breakup, and wider life transitions that can leave them questioning who they are.

Before building her coaching practice, Kerry spent two decades in the corporate world, an experience that left her with a clear understanding of pressure, responsibility, and what it costs to keep functioning when life is unraveling behind the scenes. She changed careers in her fifties and built a practice grounded in something simple but often missing: calm, structured, non-judgmental support for men who have hit crisis point and need someone in their corner. Her work spans divorce, identity coaching, and the difficult periods of midlife change that can follow redundancy, retirement, an empty nest, or the loss of the role a man once understood himself through.