Personal Development
The woman you want to become has to start today
Author and mentor Cassie Welford explains how writing down her own story, setting firm boundaries and keeping daily mindset habits turned repeated setbacks into books, events and a steadier business.
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How can you turn painful life experience into a purpose-driven business?
Cassie Welford's answer is to start acting as your future self now instead of waiting for life to feel ready. She wrote her story down, let it become her first book, and kept going by thinking of the one person it could help. Daily mindset habits, firm boundaries and small steps on bad days keep that progress steady.
Cassie Welford did not grow up wanting to be an author. As a child she dreamed of joining the Navy. In 2012, six months after ending her marriage, she was a single parent of two children with no financial resources when a coaching call changed her direction. Her coach told her to go away and write down everything that had happened in her life.
She did the homework, cried her way through it, and three months later set up her business. What she wrote that evening became the first chapter of her first book. In this livestream conversation with Lauren Robertson of Speaker Superstar, recorded when she still worked under the name Cassie Farren, she explains how that private story grew into books and a mentoring practice for women who want to write.
The conversation is less about writing technique than about attitude. She describes how she stopped living in fear, set down a long-held sense of not being good enough, and built habits that let her keep going when life fell apart around her. Her lessons apply to anyone trying to turn hard experience into useful work.
Key takeaways
- Write your story down first, because her own opening chapter began as a coaching homework task written through tears.
- Act as your future self now, making today's decisions the way the person you want to become would make them.
- Treat mindset like the gym, with short daily habits in the morning, at lunchtime and in the evening.
- On a bad day, skip the big goals and do one small thing that makes you feel a little better.
1. Writing the story that started the business
Her route into authorship began with a question she did not expect. During a life crisis she poured out her story to a coach, who told her it was no wonder working for other people had never worked out. The coach's instruction was simple: write down everything that had happened, and the direction would become clear.
The suggestion sounded crazy at the time. She had just ended her marriage, would have to sell the family home and had no wish to start a business. She did the homework anyway, and the pages she wrote that night became the opening chapter of her first book. She admits she questioned whether anyone would want to read it.
The response answered that doubt. Readers told her the books had changed their lives, and that feedback is why she now mentors other women who want to write. Her belief is that everybody carries a story that can heal not only themselves but other people too, provided they are willing to share their real experience and feelings.
2. Setting down the backpack of not being good enough
Being told she was inspiring did not pay the bills. She describes years of speaking at events and winging her strategy, with her heart saying she had important work to do while her bank statements said it was not working. By the time she sought help, she was losing faith in herself and wondering whether it was time to quit.
The turning point came when she was asked to describe the woman she wanted to become, then told to become that woman now. Future Cassie, she realised, did not live in some rose-tinted future. She had to think, act and make decisions like her from that day on, and she says the way she lives, works and sees herself changed as a result.
Part of that shift was dropping what she calls an emotional backpack. Her past self lived in fear and carried a sense of not being good enough, partly from a cleaning job where some people spoke to her in degrading ways. The newer version sets boundaries, says no when needed, stops people pleasing and puts self-care and personal development first.
3. Choosing to get up on the hard days
She is candid that her attitude was not always this way. Her life collapsed dramatically three times, and the first two left her in a mess. The third collapse sparked a refusal to let her past define her future, along with a single motivating thought: if she could help just one person with what she had learned, it would be worth it.
She keeps that attitude alive through consistency rather than bursts of inspiration. Before getting out of bed she reads a chapter of a motivational book or listens to a meditation, repeats the habit in the evening and takes ten minutes at lunchtime. She compares it to the gym, where buying a course or attending a motivational day achieves little without daily practice.
On the worst days she gives herself a clear choice to give up or get up. A cry, a coffee with a friend, a short sleep or a ten-minute dance party are all allowed, but a pity party should not last longer than half an hour. Then she picks one small thing that makes her a little better and gets on with it.
